Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Happiness Secret anD Warding of Depression~


The best beginning, bismillahirrahmanirrahim..

Dear my lovely friends, our final exam just around the corner, so here, i would like to share with all of you, how to keep 'happy' in this 'fatrah'..hehe. a bit motivation for ourselves. I know that all of us so nervous and worry when it come to this fatrah. But, life must go on. By hook or by crook we have to face the reality that we have to sit for this examination...huhuhu.

Ok, stop talking about examination. lets us start with my topic.... happiness secret..~ ;)

So, happiness!!! something that all of us strive to find and keep it right?

Here are the several steps that we can take to make sure that we always happy.. insyaAllah.

The first and foremost,

Always remember Allah , as stated in Quran ,

Allah, the All Glorious says :

" Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest " (13:28)

And, Allah says in Quran :

" And the men and women who remember Allah much with their hearts and tongue, Allah has prepared for them, forgiveness and a great reward( such as paradise) (33:35)

Then, second step,

Let the past gone forever, means, do not live in the nightmares of former times or under the shade of what you have to missed. For example, if you lost something that you really love such as your friends or even your parents, same goes in examination, if you had a bad result before, it is true that you will feel so sad, but you have to remember, the past is gone forever, you have to let it go, you have to let the feeling or the sadness go away from you. You have and MUST accept your fate. If not, you will only feel full of depression and that feeling will only make your heart hurt.

A simple analogy, even you keep thinking about your bad former times, do you think that you can return the baby to his or her mother's womb? or do you think that you can return the sun to its place of rising or tears to the eye? NO! of course impossible for us to do so, as we are human being. So, my solution, forget the past because the past is non-existent. Former days are gone and done with and TODAY IS ALL THAT YOU HAVE.

The third step,

Put in your mind that yesterday has passed either with its good or evil, while tomorrow has not yet arrived, hence, TODAY IS ALL THAT YOU HAVE.

so, when you understand that today is all that you have, you will organize the hours of this day, so that you make years out of minutes and months out of seconds. Then, when you realize that today is all that you have, you will start seek for forgiveness from anybody around you and the most important from your Lord, you will keep thinking about HIM, remember HIM in every breath, then prepare for the final parting from this world.

Today is my last day to live. When you achieve this attitude, you will profit for every moment of your day, developing your personality, expanding your abilities and purifying your deeds.

I will say to myself, as today is all that i have, so today i will strive to be obedient to my Lord, pray in the best manner possible, recite Quran with the present of my heart.

I will say to the past:

O' past that has departed and is gone, I will not cry over you. You will not see me remembering you, not even for a moment, because you have traveled away from me never to return.

and i will say to the future :

O' future, you are in the realm of the unseen, so I will not be obsessed by your dreams. I will not be preoccupied about what is to come because tomorrow is nothing and has not yet been created.

`Today is my only day' is one of the most important statements in the dictionary of happiness, for those who desire to live life in its fullest splendor and brilliance.

THe fourth step

Be content with all that you have, not to say you that you have not to struggle to be a better person, but if you have try your best, then let Allah do the rest. Be grateful with what HE give to you, as He know what is the best for you.

Allah s.w.t said :

So hold that which i have given you and be the grateful (7:144)

Next step,

Doing goods to others give comfort to the heart.

Means, if you find yourself to be in difficulty or distress, show kindness to others, and you will be the first to find solace and comfort. Give to the needy, defend the oppressed, help those in distress, visit the sick, or just do any other things as long as what you did with the purpose to help or comfort others heart (just because of ALLAH) , so you can find that happiness surrounds you from all direction. Because, an act of charity is like perfume, it benefits the user, the seller and the buyer.

The prophet peace be upon him said :

" Do not dismiss certain acts of kindness by deeming them to be insignificant, even if (such an act) is to meet your brother with a smiling face( for that is a deed which might weigh heavily in your scale of deeds)


For the last but not least.......

As stated in holy Quran:

"Be not sad, surely Allah with us" (9:40)



Reference: Don't be sad. By Dr. Aidh Al-qarni


~::Life For ALLAH::~